3.5 Months of Pain - Fork in the Road

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DISCLAIMER: I am fully aware of all of the principles (180's, GAL, Detachment) and continue to work on these each and every day and doing a better job day by day.

My questions below may belong in another thread or frankly another website all together. With that said please let me know if any of you have had experiences with the following.

While each situation is different, what has been the consensus with some of these?

1. Deep down, does my wife KNOW what she wants or is she truly conflicted at this time?

2. Does she feel guilty spending time with OM?

3. If she ever decides to break it off with OM, should I expect/need an apology?

4. If she is possibly leaning towards wanting to reconcile with me, is she possibly scared of rejection from me since I am the one who filed for divorce?

5. She hasn't mentioned the pending divorce in almost 2 weeks (and there is a lot to talk about with it), it she intentionally stalling to give herself more time to decide what she wants?

6. At what point during the detachment process do I open the door a little more? Relationship talk, divorce talk, etc.. DO I refrain on having ANY of these talks until the day she tells me she broke it off with OM?

7. During some of my snooping (I know, not part of the plan), her phone records show she is talking on phone less with OM and a lot more with her mom. Does this mean anything?

8. We have yet to have a court date/meeting with attorneys: when we do this, will it get REAL for her and then she starts thinking more?

9. Reminder: three days ago she mentioned she wanted to take our son on vacation together this summer...is she "fishing" to see where my head is?

10. Other than the obvious (180's, Detachment, GAL), what else can I do to get her temperature on where she is in this? She may be over there in hurt/pain waiting on me to make the first move...probably not, but how do I find out? It seems there is a slim margin for error here.