I did get an ego boost today. I went to my son's school to do a presentation for a class. I talked w/the counselor while I was there, who asked how things were at home...I consider him a friend so didn't mind telling him...have told him about it when it all broke loose.
It's kind of an interesting sitch because I've known the counselor in other professional capacities for 20 years and H has known him for 35 years, at least, because the counselor was his pe/health teacher and coach in 8th grade. Of course this was in a tiny town and H was oldest of 5, so counselor also knows my IL's well.

Anyway, I told him that H tells me he isn't seeing OW but still calls her & talks w/her & that gives me a lot of questions....He was pretty astounded that I was still hanging in there....shaking his head...then he said "you are absolutely incredible, you look great and you are laughing in this whole situation - I guess there are silver linings in every cloud". That kind of was a nice pick me up...I guess I need any boost I can get, but nice to know I'm not going around like a sad sack all the time.
I told the counselor that i still had my bomb and that if worse ever came to worse I would drop it and OW would never know what hit her.....the ATOMIC MOTHER-IN-LAW....counselors eyes got big and he started laughing and said "that's for sure" (remember, he saw her through 5 kids in school)....then he said, "knowing his dad like I do, I'd imagine he could kick him into orbit"....told him yes, it's been like holding back 2 rabid dogs. .....

Just an interesting conversation, nice to know a guy thought I looked good....(counselor's not too uncool, but he's married makes a difference to me, even if not to some people) I also loved knowing he agreed about Atomic MIL.
I will get great satisfaction from hearing the whoosh of the fire storm if I ever need to unleash it.

hmmmmm....how's that for cool calm detachment?

been around awhile!