Thanks, LH, and I'm sorry you're in a similar situation. I'm pretty worn out at this point, but also spend a meaningful amount of time now in the lifting state, thinking about all of the things I want to do when she's finally gone, with the kids and without.
I do worry a lot about my children. S10 is showing signs of this negatively impacting him (schoolwork suffering, lashing out (especially at his mother), articulating a bleak outlook about life). I've talked to a child psychologist on his behalf, and she is going to see him at the end of May (was earliest appointment I could get), but he's very resistant to going (which I get, completely -- he's a shy 10-year old). Pretty much always without fail my W spits out the "Kids are resilient" line whenever she is forced to confront what D can do to them. I hope she's right.
On we go.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)