I believe he does think he can stay friends with her, in fact he's said as much., and I think that is part of it.
I find it hard not to succumb (sp?) to the fear that this brings up, and of course I don't respond very calmly to fear. It seems as though the phone calls have picked up in frequency but decreased in length. I sometimes debate whether the best course of action is to just let it ride and hope it burns out or shake things up and express my feelings about the calls. Of course he knows how I feel, and he makes an effort to hide the calls but they keep on. He never responds well to pressure.
