I'm pasting this here so I can have it to work on.
Quote: You could ask yourself (a la Michele) "what's different about the times when I am more trusting of him" or even "what's different about the times when NOT KNOWING feels OK to me?"....you may find some surprising answers...that keeping yourself busy helps, or exercising, or being with friends more, or whatever. It may be about realizing that NO MATTER WHAT...you will still have to take a leap because it's true that you will never know FOR SURE what's going on.
I just read the article on trust, it's very good, one I will have to copy and again work on to really understand and incorporate.