LITB - wise advice and thank you.

I am doing a great job of GAL, and doing a lot better on 180's.

Question - if/when wife ever decides she wants to work things out, is it typically a quick spur of the moment all of the sudden type of thing where she calls one day and says "lets talk" OR a slow, gradual process where she tests the waters, see how its going to work type of thing without coming right out and saying "lets work things out".

What has been everyone's experience on here?


Me: 38
Her: 33
Bomb: 1/6/2017
Separated: 1/10/17
Together: 16 Years
Son 12 Years Old
She and Son still at the house
Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times
Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17