Been away from here for 4 months so I'm starting a new thread.
Story so far,in April 2016, I got the ILYBNILWY speech, W then informed me that she had meet someone else and that she had a opportunity to have a relationship with this OM (60 year old single guy). W asked at point for a separation, I stupidly believed the wife was having an EA only. We split up as W wouldn't give up OM, start arrangement for selling family home. W broken down after 5 weeks and stating she had made a massive mistake and still love me, by this point PA had been going on 8 weeks.
W from this point agreed NC, and was very remorseful and full of regret regarding her actions. We agreed to work on our M and decide a to have a fresh start and move to a new house in a new area. We started to attend MC, IC to work though our issues.
By August 2016 we were in our new house, things had process and we were making progress, I was still dealing with all the issues of my W actions.
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Then bombshell number 2 was dropped, to check on whether NC was being kept, I download W phone messages. NC was in place no problem, however I found messages dating back to 2015 to OM2. When challenged W admitted to another short PA, but without full intercourse but other sexual acts . I was destroyed, but having committed to reconciliation, which involved moving house, moving kids school etc and the fact I still loved my W, I decide to try and make thing work.
One week later bombshell number 3
W admitted to a further PA with OM3, once again no full intercourse but other sexual acts, at this point I felt like folding, but somehow am still hold on and hope to save my M.
Still here still fighting, dealing with one day at a time.
here are the links to my old one, for anyone who wants to now the full story.
