Had counseling last night and it was really good. C would like me to volunteer at a children's home and partner up with a kid that has lost a parent or sibling. He thinks it would really be helpful for me. I'll be looking into that.
When I came home, W was sitting on the couch. I walked in and said hi and walked to the other side of the house and chatted with my folks.
W texted me from the other room that she wanted to talk so I went and sat on the couch next to her.
She wanted to let me know that she had put in her notice at work and that she was leaving on the 27th. I already knew all this because my mom had told me. I simply responded "ok".
Then she asked what I wanted to keep that was in storage. I said the bedroom furniture (I paid for it years ago) and she could keep everything else. She went off on me, saying that she had nothing. She was leaving, and didnt even have a job where she was going. She lit into me about how this was all my fault, that I had let myself ruin our relationship. She then asked that I buy her D new furniture because we got rid of her old stuff when we sold our last house (I told her I would buy D new furniture when we moved into the new house). I just listened and STFU. But inside, I wanted to tell her that she is 50% of our problem and I never forced her to do anything!
I kind of feel like I'm being extorted by W. She's pinning ALL the blame on me. She has no money and is willfully choosing to be unemployed by leaving the state to go live with her mother.
On the other hand, I love D very much and I don't want her to not have anything when she moves.
I'm concerned that if I don't buy D new stuff, that W will bad mouth me to D and/or not let me speak to her after the move. But, I also want to stand up for myself. I've owned the parts of the relationship that I messed up. I've apologized multiple times. And I've sought help for my issues. She hasn't done any of that.
