Is it Midlife Crisis, Walkaway Spouse or the End?

[Gordie]

SJS, you can do this, man! You said distancing had its purpose and now it's time for something else? What do you want to try? She doesn't want your overt compliments but there are other things you can do. Just get creative. She says she wants your attention. I don't know you and your situation so can't tell you what to do. I can only ask you questions and share my experiences with you. Paying attention: do you notice the little things about your w? The little things she likes? The chores she hates to do? How she smells? You have a limited amount of time together so enjoy it to the fullest when you are together. What softens her heart? Do more of that. What hardens it? Stop doing those things. Read DB and the book how to improve your relationship without talking about it. Does having a drink put her at ease? Make cocktails or whatever she likes to drink. Does she hate doing the laundry? Do all the laundry without asking. Does she look smoking hot to you? Stare at her like you want her. Experiment and monitor results.