It apparent that your W is very confused and doesn't know how to make sense of her feelings and what is going on within her. It is inspirational to see where you are mentally and emotionally and it gives me hope. I have a question for you. I see how long you have been dealing with your situation but how long did it take for you to get to the place in your life where you are truly mentally ready to accept whatever outcome happens and at this point do you feel you could still welcome her back if she so decides that is what she would like?