I understand what LITB is saying, but we can't copycat a "plan". It has to be adjusted for each of our situations. LITB is one of my heroes on this site and if I save my marriage, it will be by following some of what he did in his situation over the years.
Matrix, That is very kind of you to say. I am humbled.
I agree with you guys to a certain degree. However, here are some things that I believe should be common in every relationship:
-healthy boundaries -detachment -good communication skills
These are 3 traits that I can think of off the top of my head.
What I am finding with sellout is that he chooses to continue down the same path and ignore the advice that we are giving him.
Usually that comes from someone operating from a place of fear. Fear of pushing their WAS further away. Fear of upsetting the WAS. Fear of the WAS thinking that the LBS doesn't care. The reality is, you can't push the WAS further away. The worst is already happening.
I'll say it one more time. Boundaries....
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
