Thanks guys - and HaWho, thanks for the talk suggestion. I'll have a look at that one. Discovering TED talks (and recommending them to others) has been one of the nice things to have come from this new path my life got plonked on!
Just a mini update - I met up with SS and his Mum a couple of weeks ago. Had a nice meal out and caught up. It didn't really occur to me until afterwards that XH didn't really get a mention. He cropped up once or twice in conversation, but no-one really had anything to say about how he is or what he is doing. At one point I would have tried to steer the conversation in that direction. Now I just enjoy maintaining a link with SS and his Mum as I am fond of them both.
Next year they still plan to move abroad and made me promise to go visit Funny, there is a group of us that know each other through XH. Me, his XW1, our mutual friend, SS. Talking to our mutual friend recently, she suggested we all get together soon (minus XH of course.) So, having once been the link between us all, he no longer gets an invite to our get togethers. I don't say this in spite and I don't relish that (okay maybe my ego likes that a little) - just that it's how things have unfolded. Actions and choices do bring consequences and it seems sad to be 'unwelcome' at a little party like that..
The job continues to be a challenge - in some nice ways - and some challenging ways. I got a virus a couple of weeks ago and still haven't completely recovered, so I have missed out on a few social things. I'm trying to maintain a good life balance and have boundaries on my time. This I don't find easy in the context of not wanting to let others down - which feels deeply ingrained. Certainly it's a work in progress.
The purchase of my second place is moving forward. The survey is done now and so maybe that will got through in a month or so. It will be nice to have a base closer to work.
Socially, and at work I have attracted the interest of a couple of married guys. Ugh - I don't feel I have been encouraging in any way other than polite. But each asked me for a drink in a friend's type way. For sure that could be just friends and I may be hypersensitive. But I'm certainly not going to socialise one on one with someone else's husband who may or may not have some 'beyond friendship' interest in me. Now if either of them had said - hey I'd love us to go for a drink and you meet my W - that would be completely different..
Other than that, I've started an online self-development course, linked to Brene Brown's work - so that is interesting...and generally (whilst life has ups and downs) I'm doing just fine. I keep in touch with NG at work from time to time - and I'm quite fond of him. But he continues to be fairly reticent, and I respect that. In a couple of weeks time, I'll have been D'd for a year - and truly, I don't feel that interested in dating at this point - not in actively seeking to date anyway. Of course if I met someone and I liked them, I might be open to that...
Take care all and my very best wishes to you.
Xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Funny, there is a group of us that know each other through XH. Me, his XW1, our mutual friend, SS. Talking to our mutual friend recently, she suggested we all get together soon (minus XH of course.) So, having once been the link between us all, he no longer gets an invite to our get togethers. I don't say this in spite and I don't relish that (okay maybe my ego likes that a little) - just that it's how things have unfolded. Actions and choices do bring consequences and it seems sad to be 'unwelcome' at a little party like that..