Leaving it up to God (I think!)

[Coly23]

Thank you all so much for your comments.

Altair, I can see how having 'relations' can confuse things but if goes to show that your H still finds you attractive otherwise he would not have wanted to. You are right off course, like my H he needs to continue baking. It's just sometimes I want to turn the temperature up so he bakes a little quicker! Glad you are still running Altair. I'm still trying to exercise at least four times a week and I'm going to make sure I keep it up so I can look hot on holiday!

SKM, thanks so much for stopping by. I know, these pesky expectations! I think firstly I am suspicious as to why he has asked to meet me for coffee and secondly how it will affect my expectations and if it will put me back a few steps. Like you say it's strange how when you feel you are starting to accept the sitch, they sense it and pull you back in. Job is sooo right!

AP, you are just to generous in your comments. I wish I felt courageous but I don't and I don't feel like I am deserving of that description. For me courage would be letting go and having pride in myself and my abilities. I look back over the last year at all the begging and pleading I did and I feel embarrassed with my behaviour. Although I know it was hard, I think you were very brave in how you did not break NC with your W and left her to her own path. I wish I had the courage to do that from the start and saved myself even more heartache.

Hey Surv1ve, thanks for stopping by and for cheering me on! I say that H asking me out for coffee is one of my signposts but it could mean nothing in the scheme of things. I like the idea of booking time with a friend afterwards to debrief. I will definitely consider doing that!

So the whole going without expectations is worrying me. As much as I don't want to, things just keep popping into my head! So I am well prepared I have been thinking of a few scenarios that might be the reason for him asking to meet me on Sunday and how I should/shouldn't react/respond. Your feedback and/or suggestions would be greatly appreciated...!

1. H: I've asked to see you so we can sort out when I can come by and collect my stuff.

Coly: Okay, sure H. You can come over on such and such day/time

2. H: I just wanted to ask if we can be friends and if I can see you from time to time?

Coly: suggestions please!

3. H: I've started seeing someone and I wanted you to hear it from me.

Coly: Suggestions please!

I am hoping that he isn't going to ask to see me for coffee to tell he he is seeing someone. I think that will be very cruel to do it in a public place. If he does I think I will just have to walk away.

It could well be that it is just coffee he doesn't mention any of the above so in that case I will listen more than talk, I will validate, validate, validate and I won't try and arrange to meet him again. I will walk away and go back to not initiating contact. I just want to make sure I am prepared and I don't mess up too much!