WW in PA: Threaten to tell kids? Confront OM?

[hoosjim]

Hi Ginger, really appreciate your input, and your points about collateral damage from exposing the A as well as about my own wife's culpability are well taken. However, you are completely wrong about this guy not being a predator. Not sure how much of my background you read, but Late last Summer/ early Fall I went to my then-friend about my marital troubles. While I had not experienced the dramatic awakening then that I have since DB,I HAD realized that things were not good... I just didn't know what to do. He (now the OM)used that information to make his move on my wife. He was methodical and intentional about it... Starting out by "accidentally" finding and friending her Facebook page while "looking for another person he knew named __________" (a blatant lie he knew no such person and my wife's name is pretty unique), proceeding to calling her to "get ahold of _____ (me) because he's not answering calls or texts" to inviting her out with us and then telling her she should get her girlfriends to come to that particular bar for their "girls nights" (which is exactly what happened). He was then in perfect position to be a sympathetic ear to her via text, phone, and socially, and shower her with the attention and such that he now knew she craved and which she was completely vulnerable to. He is a good talker, a funny guy, and would constantly be telling her "isn't it better talking to me and laughing thrown talking to your husband and crying", and using things I'd told him in confidence and/or twisting my words to make me look bad with her.

Lots if signs I should've seen in retrospect lije how he qas alqays ogling and commenting on married women, usuallyother sports team mom's but.. yeah... dud was most certainly a predator, even recognizing my wife's own culpability.

On exposure generally... is there no merit to throwing that out here as a threat to maybe make them think twice, even if you never go through with it?