WW in PA: Threaten to tell kids? Confront OM?

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Jeeminy what a frustrating evening. Expecting to get some resolution and forward movement of some sort and shut out on both fronts. OM didn't show up at his usual watering hole, on a hockey playoff night, no less, where he can ALWAYS be found, so I was shut down there, and then W came home and went straight to sleep while I was working out, so no opportunity to have the "Cut contact or get out" convo with her. Gonna have to just call her at work tomorrow and say "hey, lets meet right after work so we can talk" (which I hate, because then she talks to the OM on her "cheater phone" and plans what to say-- rather have the talk unscripted.)

Sandi, so your comment raises an interesting question in me: Do you know of an particularly effective ways to expose a single OM who is cheating with your W? He has kids of his own from a previous marriage and adultery is still against the law where I live... could I put his custody at risk? (Somehow I doubt it since his first marriage ended from his infidelity yet he still got the kids.) Have him prosecuted for adultery? (This would implicate my wife, though, obviously.) Would love to stick it to the predator SOB somehow but not sure what my options are. I DO have pretty good proof...