I think you're right in that it may be time to try a different tactic, Im just unsure as to which? As for why I think its not working has more to do with her continued camp out in the bedroom while home during the week and departure on the weekends. Although, we haven't argued in months and we can have some laughs together. I began distancing as she shared not long after bomb drop that she felt i was too clingy in recent history - prior to BD. as well when i began distancing arguing ceased and i was able to refocus on myself.Ive been applying the same tactic for 5 months, perhaps variation may help.

I gave her acts of service while she needed words of affirmation and touch. well, at least i didn't give enough of them

You hit the nail on the head by asking how i am connecting with her as i think i unintentionally fell off connecting when she at one point months back said i should stop complimenting her as it made her feel awkward. I think i was too obvious and may have over complimented

BD Oct 2016
Me 47, W 43
together 25 years
S 25, D 22