You are contributing to the destructive pattern of your sitch, because you are playing the role of the enabler.
That being said, you both try to manipulate each other. Makes me wonder if this was common behavior within your M/R.
You want to change the dynamics of your sitch? Set some boundaries....communicate them to your W and then follow through.
Example: Let her know that you will not have a convo with her regarding OM the next time she brings him up. Then don't converse with her about him.
She doesn't have any respect for you. She is dating OM and you are bringing her flowers? Say what? You can't tell us that you didn't have any expectations when you did that.
How about her telling you OM is going to be cleaning your pool? You say no (which is respectable) and then you changed your mind. Her reaction said that she couldn't believe that you would allow that to happen.
Personally, I would suggest to limit your interactions with her to only discussing your son and maybe the housing topics. That's it. No flowers or going for walks. Not while she is seeing OM.
Let's talk about you. What changes have you made or that you are working on? What are you doing about GAL and some 180s that you have mentioned?
You have to get your work done before anything else can happen. Plan your work and work your plan.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
