Time to update on my sitch, I'm not sure whether here or cheese hunting thread is best, maybe both places, maybe I need to make several posts.
It was a good and happy weekend for me, I think for H as well, went way to fast, as the good ones always do.
First, since Dazed gave me homework here, I'll report on my progress there: one of my short term goals was to plant some flowers this weekend....I did! I went and bought too many flowers and got started getting them set out. It was striking to me, shocking, really, many of my garden tools were laying still right where I dropped them (literally) the moment I found out about the A last fall. I think there's something symbolicly strenghtening in going back and picking them up and going on. I helped S rake his veg. garden to get ready to set out a few plants. Life was in such upheaval last year, even before confirmation of A, that we never even got it planted. Who was it, Thoreau, I think, who said "a well tended garden is a symbol of a well-ordered life" or something like that... Another short-term goal was to stop crazy-making. I did ok this weekend, will post about that in more detail.
I also did something just for me that might get H upset with me, but we'll see, havent told him yet. I got myself a necklace to go with my dress for D's wedding...I love it, I don't have a lot of nice jewelry. It's white gold, diamonds and saphires....it was expensive but not real expensive, actually on sale for a big discount....I showed it to S, said I didn't know what his dad would say, but maybe he'd just think it was fake....S had big eyes and said "I don't think so, it doesnt look fake"....anyway, I figured this one's for me...I've earned it.