Seems to be pretty close to consensus here that if your are hoping to reconcile you don't go telling EVERYONE about the A, as it makes for a very rough path hme,for the WW, and can lead to substantial family discord and unpleasantness if and when reconcilliation occurs.
You should rephrase that, however. You shouldn't be protecting HER from exposure of the A. It should be your choice not to expose it, but I would not go out of my way to protect her. Don't expose it, but if it comes out, it comes out. That's called a consequence to her actions.
If you chose not to expose it's for your sake, not to protect her.
