First I wanted to speak to my question for discussion. I just want to reiterate that CHEATING IS ALWAYS WRONG. I'm not trying to make an excuse for it at all. It's just like it is the worst possible thing to do and every other wrong doing by the spouse who was cheated on seems to be undone. But I believe there are thing in an M you can do that are just as bad as cheating. Again, that's my personal opinion, and I was wondering how other people felt about that.
In the matter of addiction and mental illness? Well, the prime example is my parents. My mother was an addict with mental illness. They were married almost 25 years before my dad left. he waited for me to grow up. My mother neglected the family. She traded her drug addiction for a gambling addiction. My dad and I tried sooooooo hard to get her to be a part of our lives. My parents never slept in the same bed. My mother hated everyone else she was getting her atlantic city trip almost weekly. She went to Bingo every night. She wanted nothing to do with us really. I do not blame my dad for leaving. I lived what he lived except as a daughter rather than a husband. What do I blame my dad for? He did cheat. He didn't leave first. He will always be wrong in that. But for leaving the M? I can't blame him at all. I know exactly what he was going through and it was very very painful. And lord did he try. As did I.
So what SHOULD the divorce rate percentage be? Well, I guess zero would be great. If the addiction rate was 0%, if the mental illness rate was 0%. If the childhood trauma rate is 0%. Then divorce rate should be 0%. If both partner make an active effort to love each other, 0%.
