Have you read the DB books? There is no right path for all. Every situation is diffeeent. Why are you distancing? Why do you think it's not working? If it's not working, is it time to tryout a different tactic?
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving