dAzed, I was reading through slowly's thread and found this post of yours...it really hit some of my thoughts on the head, so I hope you don't mind if I post it here for my "daily mediations" and reminders!
We discussed this, maybe a little prematurely a couple of weeks ago: Quote: --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
That comfortable, accepting, safety zone is what your hubby needs. His mixed emotions of guilt and probably a little abandonment are kicking in. He'll need support and reassurances that you are there for him.
Not only is hubby feeling this, his OW is feeling the loss and heaping additional guilt on him.
The difference you can make is that safety zone I talk about. He can not get that from OW. For one, she doesn't have the support group here to reassure herself, and therefore becomes a needy, clingy burden. Not what hubby needs right now. You can be the calm in the storm. The end to that relationship happened a couple of weeks ago. The end was the end. There are things to clear up there and the guilt of abandoning her is strong for hubby I'm sure.
Be viligant, and maybe outspoken about your support for him in his desire to end affair. Just keep that safety zone for him so comfortable and receptive he can't even think of anywhere else on earth he'd rather be.
