You obviously have to go with your gut and do things as you see fit. It is very thoughtful of you to think of horseback riding lessons and if neglect was an issue this is good.
Just made 17 years with my W (married 16) in January. Is this the 17 year itch they're scratching???? Mine scratched 4 years ago but DB'ing prevailed. Not sure DB'ing will prevail again, but I'm all in.
Best.
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17