Altair - your H (as with all our H's!) does sound very confused. I know I shouldn't compare your sitch with mine but although your H has filed for D he seemed to be more affectionate with you and also wanted to talk. My H NEVER wants to talk about anything and apart from a hug and kiss hello and goodbye I've had no, ahem, relations, for nearly 18 months! Yes, I do need to keep reminding myself to take one day at a time and that's something I really have to take to heart because I am the biggest planner ever when it comes to my personal life!
Westo, I have said yes to coffee but that I only have next Sunday free (which is true). I didn't want him to think I was too eager so I left it till this evening to text him back and again it was mainly because I was at my Sister's for most of the day
I must say I was taken a back with his invite. One of my signposts was that H will ask me out for coffee without me prompting a meet up. However I am now starting to worry about his reasons! I know, no expectations. Just go and have coffee and I won't be arranging to see him again. I'm going to leave it to him for a while. I've one enough chasing to have run three marathons!!
The purpose of my text about his stuff was to let him see that I am not worried or afraid of him getting his things anymore. At the end of the day it is just stuff, I realise that now. I think it's good for me in the process of detaching from him to let him know that it doesn't bother me anymore.
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Yes, I do need to keep reminding myself to take one day at a time and that's something I really have to take to heart because I am the biggest planner ever when it comes to my personal life! 
