I understand how confusing this all is. If you have fun together and it doesn't set you back mentally then I don't see any harm in it. I know there are probably many different opinions on this.
I am running into a similar situation. Unlike between you and your W, me and my W were completely miserable 2 months ago and she hated me. So we haven't done anything together recently except her asking if I am going to be able to come to my son's baseball games. Which I do because I was always working before so it's nice to make the time to watch him play. But just this week she texted me saying that she sent me an email and before I could get to my email she called me. She said that our town has limited tickets to the Yankee game where they are retiring Derek Jeter's number so I said if it's something you really want to do let's get tickets. So she agreed and said she will buy 3 (for her, me and our son). Then the next day she calls and says maybe we should leave our son home since we will be out for over 6-7 hours and she doesn't think he will handle it well. He is only 7 and has your typical kids short attention span. So I agreed and said I will call up to cancel one of the tickets. This is the first time in a long time that she has wanted to do something with just me. So I am taking it for what it is which is just a chance to have a good time with my W without any of the normal daily issues we might have when we are together. Trying to stay detached and just find moments to enjoy with or without my W.
I have bunk you are handled by yourself fine and it seems you are becoming more confident in who you are. Keep doing what you are doing. I am praying for you brother.
