So... what have i done

- sought individual counselling almost immediately
- pursuit for the departing spouse only lasted maybe 2 weeks before i educated myself
- deep inflection of my responsibilities in the relationship struggles. Complacency, misguided love languages, and simply just not getting it until bomb drop
- I've ben applying both DB'ing and 180 principals
- Only lately have i been able to develop GAL opportunities as my dad passed away 2 months ago. As well my closest friends and family were hers, and i have not sought their company
- Ive been preparing myself financially for whatever outcome may be
- Significant life events - passing of my mother in 09, loss of a long time job around that same time, empty nest about a year ago... i could go on

At times I feel the doormat, awaiting change or the end although I have inner peace and have become the best me i can be


BD Oct 2016
Me 47, W 43
together 25 years
S 25, D 22