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MLCers lie not only to us but to others, they want others to see them as "perfect".

My WH lied to me but he lied to OW too, she confirmed it to me (we had several conversations). He even told her he asked for a divorce and I refused... he never did, I asked him if he wanted one, he said no.

Your husband is crafting that ideal image of himself to OW because he wants to impress her, he is becoming addicted to the ego boost she gives him. Since their relationship is based on la la land, none of his facts can be checked.

Copy his emails if you can, keep them for you, I don't think you can use them in case of divorce since they are coming from a private account, but if in the future you have to confront/have a conversation with OW at least you can bring your side of the story, it doesn't mean she will believe you at first, but the seeds will be planted.

Stay strong, I know PA is tough to handle, it requires so much self control and when you are exhausted, sometimes you just want to blow up.

I don't blame the snooping, I did the same and I gained a better understanding of what was going on, it helped me taking decisions. We need to know what they are up to to better protect ourselves and our kids.