If life gives you lemon....do lemonade

[Lana_71]

Hello..
Yes still in the tunnel... actually I always knew he doesnot have emotional intelligence . Hence he doesnot know what to say to them or to me. In addition to his ego and his standards which are extremely high he has issues with connecting to anyone because he stays on the surface of things and can't get intimate. He is very practical person who hides his emotions and run away from uncomfortable situations.

I don't think that will change , he once told me he has his demons that he need to work on and prefer us to be away. He realizes that he is having the problems and that he has to figure out stuff so in that sense I don't see him blaming me no more.. the blaming was the first year and s half of bd but I don't see that anymore. Only when he addresses some of his fault he would say we both contributed to the situation.

Anyway when he decides to get out of the tunnel and talk like adults I am willing to discuss the situation if not he can stay in his tunnel and figure out his life. At the end he is an adult and should be able to know what he wants.. yes I was affected dearly by his actions but I will be responsible to teach him what he should do. I am sure he knows it just trying to fight it or justify not doing it. I know if I get angry scream and shout he will be the worst person to work with cause he will get stubborn and vindictive while now he is confused how to handle us.he always said he is patient I will show him who is patient.