Hi Cali, pleased to hear how well you are doing. I'm on a similar timeline to you and coming up to the 3 year mark in July. I'm already D'd though - due to XH's rush to start a new life and family with OW!
I'm with you, in that I would never have wished for the journey, but in many ways it has done me so much good. Yes it was tough but..
It is good to see your reaction to and perspective on your W's behaviour. So many situations on here rumble along with the WAS/MLCer continuing on in their groove. Truly, it is so important to be in your own groove, watch from the sidelines and live your life. Being the man/woman you want to be..
I think if we do all of that, we really can't go too far wrong. For me, I really don't feel too much angst WRT XH and OW because I truly wouldn't want what they have. Ie: a R that started in infidelity, lies and deceit - it's not how I would want my life to be and I wouldn't want for my current relationship to have been 'born' in those circumstances...
Any ways - I always admire you Cali and I always read your posts because you always post something worth reading..
Have a lovely weekend!
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
