I didn't mean to hijack Blu's thread at all, but I am glad that my post resonated with you two. I hope that Blu can realize that what she is feeling is totally normal. I just wanted to offer some perspective from someone who has been there. I don't want anyone to make the same mistakes that I made. True forgiveness is possible and you can still have a better marriage then you ever had before.
I was also hoping that TxHubby would read this post as well. It sounds like he has already made his mind up, but I wanted to offer my story anyway...just in case.
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