I am an alcoholic in recovery so I feel like even though I'm new I have a little something to offer here. Your husband will never be able to be a husband while he's in active addiction. No amount of work on the marriage will stick. Your husband has a disease, and if left untreated it is progressive. It never gets better, only worse. It negatively affects every aspect of your life, and is particularly destructive to relationships (see: my story/any AA meeting).
My advice to you is to invest heavily in Al-Anon, and get advice from program veterans on how to steer him towards treatment or a program of recovery. Once he gets sober, and gets his head clear, he'll be equipped to start working on himself and the relationship. But, until he's sober, getting him sober is the only thing that matters.
M:33 W:34 S:9 S:11 M:12 years T:16
BD: 02-09-2017 (ILYBINILWY) MC Started: 2-12-2017 EA Discovered: 2-13-2017 PA Discovered: 4-16-17
