If life gives you lemon....do lemonade

[Lana_71]

Hello ownit...
I've been reading your stitch yesterday and you are right so many similarities expect mine will not spew but will completely ignore what he doesnot want. I always believed he is a very clever person and always ensure he is politically correct so that you can never say he called me this or that. He used to be a meter in pushing my buttons to retaliate and guess who will be the villain then ...me. So at least for the time being I have no one to push my buttons. In your stitch there are so many great words given which are worth to be reread . The key is to detach and create your environment. I know my H was a great person but now I do believe that Mlc can change any man and become the most vindictive person on earth , hence we can't depend on our past knowledge. But the key is to ensure not to give them the reasons to justify their action. So when we get mad, angry, or even careless they have a reason to justify why they are doing whatever. And they start fighting us on everything kids, home, money everything and this is so stressful for everyone. The key is to kill them with kindness. This attitude will not give them the ammunition they need. We are the sane ones in this relation( I think) so no need to increase bitterness.

I know you are hurt for your kids relation with their father. My opinion let it go... don't suggest or offer. Let them deal with it. I tried so hard and figured it will not work I guess he felt I was trying to control him. You can't protect them from him let them figure things out and you will be there when they need you.

Ok latest update he msg them today asking about their day, then telling them that he played golf tournament and won. I suppose this means his back is doing better if he can play golf.Anyway my kid said good job and wished him good night.hahaha

My elder daughter is not communicating that much with him but let it be they will figure it out.