Ok, I have a hypothetical (albeit wishful). What would you guys do if my wife that has been dating OM for now almost 4 months called me one day and she was really upset that her and OM broke it off? Be nice and offer to come over to console her, say nothing, act disinterested, etc... As many of you we hope this day will one day come. Please advise!!
As you read and learn more and more - you will find out that their is a script for this. When the other person is no more they tend to go into other person depression/withdrawal. Your mission is to not become the next OM as that will be rescuing/enabling. You want her to face her issues and pursue you. Not you pursuing her. If you just become OM#2 then that is a relationship that is likely to FAIL also. You want your marriage to succeed. Right?
