Your definitely right about the candy bar, which is why I didn't say anything about it. I've been GAL, just need to do it a little more. And definitely will do so. May have post up pics on FB and IG, while doing so...LOL
I understand it's hard to get rolling on it because as married guys we're used to compromising and only engaging in stuff that our wives like or are at lest cool with. You lose a lot of yourself because you haven't been an "I" for a while. You've been a "we". Well, she made herself an "I" and you need to do the same thing. She pulled back from you and did her own thing (albeit it was cheating, which is a horrible thing) but when she did that made you want her even more. When someone doesn't need us we want them all the more. You'll see that if you follow the plan. Get out there. Buy new clothes. Hit the gym. Do fun activities with friends. If you don't have available friends then go to a meetup for something you're interested in. Move on without her and there's a darn good chance it'll change her behavior. If it doesn't then no sweat, you were moving on anyway. It turns a really bad situation into a win-win situation. I myself 180'd, GAL'd, detached, and moved on so authentically that it turns out I don't even want to be married to my wife anymore. Now it's me who is leaving her and not the other way around. Get your mojo back my friend. Life is too short to be without your mojo.
