I haven't read up on your whole thread yet but seen a few of the recent ones. I agree with txhubby. You are focusing way too much on her and the Twix situation. Get yourself a snickers and go have some fun. I'm not saying this in an ignorant way, but in a way that I know exactly what you are feeling and how this is consuming your thoughts. Back when my sitch was fresh, my own son knew OM as her pet name for him. Killed me a little inside every time I heard it. It wasn't until I truly GOT A LIFE and kept my mind busy with other things that I started feeling progress in the healing. For me it was kayaking, racing, even cleaning my house and retail therepy hat got my mind in a better place. Grab a nice new outfit, some new cologne and go out. Let your phone at home or in the car and actually have fun.
Don't pin on the troubles you are feeling at all moments of the day. Start small, a half hour. No thoughts of W. then go for an hour. Then two. Soon you will have days without the chest crushing thoughts consuming your life.
In my situation, as much as I thought I did, I never really detached. Now that I have, XF is a different person. I am living a happy, fulfilled life. To me, it now seems as if things clicked for her and she's waiting for my new girlfriend to slip up in any way. This all takes time and I'm not saying my path was always the correct one. But I have seen first hand that this process works if you are able to follow the steps and really GAL and detach.
Best of luck, I'll read up more here as soon as I have some time
Seeing my son know and hanging out with the OM would piss me off to the point of saying something. Not too bothered about the Twix. Just pointing out how my W tries to be slick with the things she does at times. GAL has helped and I plan on stepping it up even more that its getting warmer outside. Time to dig deep and bring out the old me. Which actually might be me having too much fun...lol
