She might feed off of anger, like mine would, using the anger to do hurtful things. Don't give her anything to be mad about, as much as you can, while still maintaining your self-respect, and hopefully contributing to rebuilding her respect for you. Some anger from her is okay, if it builds her respect for you, like not letting her take advantage of you. Don't take the argument baits, though. Don't defend yourself. Instead, try to empathize with her and be compassionate regarding her complaints, unless you believe she is being completely unreasonable. Then, maybe tell her you think she is being unreasonable and walk away, because "I don't want a fight". That would be a 180 for me, and probably most guys -- to not defend and debate, but instead, empathize and be compassionate. Have you read Sandi's threads on the wayward wife? Thread one: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2545554&page=1
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.
