Yeah, betrayal and deception are rotten. Yet after my ex's betrayal, stuff like this seems like small potatoes. I'm just looking for the best way to extricate myself while still helping him get into the treatment he needs first.
The peculiar relief I feel helps me to know that he was a stressor in my life even before all this started - he just needed a lot of guidance, it was almost like having another kid sometimes. He could be a really good shoulder to lean on in bad times, I'll grant him that - but he also had a lot of needs and could be a bit erratic. Of course, now I wonder how much of what I attributed to residue from his past, was actually a consequence of the double life he was living in the present.
