I am going to get totally flamed for this, but something that I think about as I see it IRL and very much in newcomers these days.......
We all know I got cheated on in a pretty bad way. I do not think cheating is right in any sense of the word. However.......
I read about this admittedly neglectful spouses who had spouses who tried to get through to them for years..... very direct, not meaningless needs, like there was serious neglect going on for YEARS, zero intimacy, essentially people being left alone in the M.
Isn't that a huge violation of vows, like cheating is? I am saying both is very wrong. But its like cheating is the worst thing that could be done. I don't know that it is. It's awful, I would never do EITHER, but I am just kind of pondering on how cheaters are the end all be all of horrible people, but those who neglect their spouse and M for years aren't........
