My H and I were in a brief MC phase when he told me we were definitely getting a divorce. I told him that I would NOT state or imply to my children, who are also older, that this was mutual. The MC agreed with me. He ended up running out and not coming back to have that converation with them so I had it alone. I said your father has decided he wants to leave the marriage and will not be living with us anymore . . . Make sure you stress that this has nothing to do with them and in reality very little to do with you at this point.
