First I'm not a lawyer so take everything I say with a pinch of salt and get proper legal advice. Most Lawyers will give you a 30 minute consultancy free before you instruct one. It's a good idea to do this even though you don't want to D. Ok so here's my understanding of how this works.
If you want to D after 1 year of separation then you either
a) Both agree to irretrievable break down of the marriage (which of course you don't agree as she's not even giving it a chance)
b) Adultery.
c) Unreasonable behavior which one spouse has to cite against the other. Not so easy to do and there are plenty of examples on the web if you do a quick google. I think you'll be in the clear with that one.
After 2 years of separation things change and she can ask for a divorce based on irretrievable break down of the marriage without your consent.
The only reason for D that I know of that's quicker than a year is adultery. And you would need to D her.
It's sad but necessary that you need to think about these things. In all honesty mate when you hear the ILYBNILWY speech in my experience it means the A has been going on a lot longer than she'll ever admit to. The fact that the OM is younger just fits the script I'm afraid. Have you read Sandi2's rules yet? The one that always sticks in my mind is believe nothing of what they say and only half of what they do. Useful advice.
Peace
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
