25--This is where I think it might help you to treat him as though he is NPD and try to strategize how you can get what you want while making him feel grand in the process. I worry if you go for contempt that will be the ultimate calling out of his behavior and he may try to make you pay in some other way. Once I started treating mine as if, regardless of whether he is, the paybacks I was experiencing came to a screeching halt.
Just throwing this out there, did you ever consider filing for legal separation and tying up the financials without filing for divorce? They really hate it when you file for divorce. Could you convert the D to such a separation? He could fight it or later convert it, which would make him feel he was getting what he wanted, that he was the one divorcing you rather than the other way around. Of course I have no idea how far down the road you are. I just hate to see this crap he is pulling with you. I think if he had the semblance of control he might knock this crap off.
