I definitely now believe that the only person you can change is yourself. I'm in the second in the DR book now. And the first part itself explained my marriage perfectly. I can see exactly where I went wrong. Glad that your W is noticing.
The thing I also find interesting on the part of my W. Is that she used "I need to be by myself to better myself. But since this DB/A been going on. W has done nothing to improve herself. If anything she has become a worst person. Going out drinking and lying. Myself on the other has improved a lot in the first quarter of this year. Life is funny like that.
