The one thing that I have come to understand from this forum and a lot of internet reading is that the situation you find yourself at hand did it happen overnight so it will not be repaired quickly either. My M and a lot of other ones here broke down over time and I feel that if we truly love them then we owe it to our S's to invest a great amount of time into making it whole again and in the process realize our shortcomings and failures and become better people who can actually have better relationships. Just use this time wisely and you won't focus on the negatives as much. I have my moments of weakness but they are for ny eyes only and the occasional time my best friend is around. Other than that I try and remain strong and happy in front of her. My W was getting ready to leave to go out tonight and she came downstairs where I was getting ready to workout and she said what is wrong with me and that I have had this happy look for awhile and I just told her that I was just staying positive. She left wondering why I was happy. I find that truly ironic.
