This advice will be short but you need to detach, 180 and GAL. Letting go of your H is the best thing you can do to get him back. Put all of your focus on you right now. Learn to see that you can have an AWESOME life without him. This will give you confidence and will show him what he is missing if he chooses to not be a part of it. Finding yourself first is what needs to happen before you can find your way back to your M. If you are honest in making changes for the better for YOU, he WILL eventually notice and appreciate those changes. He still needs to do whatever it is that he needs to do in his life but at that point, you are no longer the issue. Fix yourself to fix your M.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
