Completely detaching is going to be hard. I don't want to come off like I'm neglecting my W again. But I do see where my wife is taking advantage of my kindness in some ways. Unless that's just way of her subconsciously testing my responses again.
Detaching is a huge piece of this to protect you from taking everything she does so personally (b/c even though it feels very personal, much of it is about her path, not yours). Detaching is not just an approach in DB land for the m, it's for YOU as well.
I mean, GAL is key to detaching b/c otherwise you'll just wallow or obsess with nothing on your mind but your m.
Detaching is to make you a stronger man on your own, not attached to the results but doing your best, and to keep your emotional self safer.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
