Thanks LH for the response. Never said I'd necessarily involve the kids, just threaten to. Assume your answer would be the same, though.

By the same token, would you actually advocate obscuring the truth from them (they ARE 17 and 18, remember) if they ask-- and remember I believe strongly that the older one already suspects.

Thanks again!!!

H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18

"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7

"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3