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Hitting him over the head won't help. In fact, he may have you arrested for assault. LOL!

We all have been where you are and you know what???? We all have to figure things out for ourselves and sometimes, we have to hear it from the horse's mouth. Why? Because you can't make this stuff up and sometimes hearing it from someone who has been on the other side helps us to better understand some of what is going on in their minds.

We all put labels on this mess and yes, we even try to determine if they have brain tumors or personalities...why? To try to justify the sudden and odd behavior. They may have had some of the personality disorders, but not enough to notice...but when MLC hits, it all comes out to play, i.e., because they are children all over again. They are self centered, self absorbed, selfish, rude, nasty and throw temper tantrums and yes, they even sulk. It's behavior, I am sure, none of us would have thought appealing had this been evident when we first met them and began relationships w/them.

You have to try to remember that you are dealing with someone in the range of 12-14 at this time and trust me, you can't rationalize w/him at the moment. HaWho has learned and now knows the age of her husband and right now, her sons are more mature and logical than her h.

I'm glad you've located some childcare near you. Check it out and if they are okay, I would seriously think of dropping your S off there a couple of hours at a time until both you and your S are comfortable w/the arrangement.