WH came back. Piecing. Almost at 2 year mark.

[25yearsmlc]

Thank you, LITB. I appreciate it. Just numb at the moment. Not even sure why.

I think its protective b/c you fear opening a can of worms and having to go dig up the stuff you hoped was buried and rotting away somewhere into nothingness. You are guarding and girding yourself...

I'm on my way to a divorce related "crap" event in CA, and I'm weirdly calm, b/c frankly, it helps me to not backslide from my detachment. I think it's protective.

Retrovaille was a surprise to me in that it was subtle, semi private, and yet very helpful.

Go with an open mind and don't fret about your protective mode coming on, as long as you are able, at some point, to let yourself look at whatever needs looking at.

Especially stuff that you were able to avoid looking at in you, since the A took so much head/heart space.
I'm not thinking of anything particular about you personally, Blu, I hope you know.

I'm just saying it happens often here, with an LBSer coming here b/c their spouse wants out, and they begin taking inventory of their marital flaws when they discover an A and suddenly it's ALL about the A

and well, you know the rest...

I say Trust the Process. We are all rooting for you.

((( )))