During this entire process it was understood that we were 100% selling the marital home. I would refuse to live there and she without a doubt couldn't afford to keep it.
First and foremost, this would be impossible for her to do. 1) Her income would not allow it, 2) she wouldn't be able to keep up with the utilities, pool, yards, etc
I gently told her that is probably not an option but we could certainly look into it.
I dont think its your job to say whether she can or cant afford it. If she gets help from OM, her parents, a kindly old lady, or busts her butt to get a new job, it's kind of up to her. And as far as upkeep goes, thats HER decision to make. In my opinion, if she wants to keep it and you dont want to, then let her. I imagine it will save you a lot of money and hassle not selling it. Just make sure that the budget sheet gives you half of the equity.
Originally Posted By: sellout
We were on the phone for about 10 min. I honestly feel she called instead of texted because she missed me and wanted to hear my voice.
So her little 3 day getaway with OM could have been the most amazing time of her life or it could have been not what she was expecting...don't know. BUT...based on facts...is she having any doubt now that things may be getting REAL and closer to her losing the house, security, family, etc...? She has now been dating OM for 3.5 months.
The stuff I crossed out is completely mind reading.
And then youre askingus to make....an educated guess? I say it doesnt make a lick of difference as to what you should be doing.
Originally Posted By: sellout
I am very proud of my actions over the last week and although I haven't seen it "payoff" yet, I am pacing myself. I am still GAL, etc.. and feel better today than I have in weeks.
Glad youre feeling better. Remember this could go on for months or years. One week is nothing. Its a marathon, not a sprint.
