3.5 Months of Pain - Fork in the Road

[sellout]

Quick Update and needs some opinions.

Wife returned from her 3 day get away with OM last night. She picked out son up from me about 8:15pm. I helped him with his bags putting them into her car. She got out of the car which has not been the case of late and I told her "Hello" in a nice tone and she reciprocated with "Hello" in a nicer than usual tone. They then drove off and went home. During this 3 day period, I had ZERO contact with her.

She didn't attempt to contact me and I didn't with her. At about 9:30pm last night she called me. She wanted to know if I had heard from my attorney in terms of the divorce (easily could have texted me to find this info out). I advised that I had not heard anything nor had she. We pretty much dropped it at that.

During this entire process it was understood that we were 100% selling the marital home. I would refuse to live there and she without a doubt couldn't afford to keep it. With that said, we would each get our own apartments and our son would "bounce" between apartments. I hope I don't offend anyone here but we are not the "apartment type" and this has been a big deal from the beginning.

With that said, while on the phone last night, she brought up the idea of her keeping the house and refinancing into her name. First and foremost, this would be impossible for her to do. 1) Her income would not allow it, 2) she wouldn't be able to keep up with the utilities, pool, yards, etc... I gently told her that is probably not an option but we could certainly look into it. All calm and nice. I asked her why the sudden "change of heart" of wanting to keep the house and her comment was so "our son can stay in his house". I said, yeah, that would be ideal but it's unlikely it will work out that way.

We were on the phone for about 10 min. I honestly feel she called instead of texted because she missed me and wanted to hear my voice. The 3 days is the longest we have gone with no communication in 16 years. After we got off phone she proceeded to text me about summer camps for our son, etc...

So her little 3 day getaway with OM could have been the most amazing time of her life or it could have been not what she was expecting...don't know. BUT...based on facts...is she having any doubt now that things may be getting REAL and closer to her losing the house, security, family, etc...? She has now been dating OM for 3.5 months.

Thoughts?

SIDENOTE: I am very proud of my actions over the last week and although I haven't seen it "payoff" yet, I am pacing myself. I am still GAL, etc.. and feel better today than I have in weeks.